Posts Tagged ‘aging’


January 5, 2016


It is January 2016

I am 69




A 6 and a 9

It has a certain


the 6 becomes the 9

a roundness

you can flip it

twirl it

set it on its side

still the number

reads the same

its meaning will not change

I am


years old




Red Ribbon Caregiver Book Highly Recommended

August 11, 2015

The Wishing Shelf Book Awards gave “More Than I Could Ever Know: How I Survived Caregiving” four stars.  “Full of wisdom and practical help for the caregiver. A RED RIBBON WINNER and highly recommended” they said, this group of British readers.Red_Ribbon_-_123rf“A perfect book for anybody who is a caregiver. I liked the style very much and the message was powerful and thoughtful” commented a 34-year-old female reader.

“A short read but, nevertheless, very powerful stuff. I liked the carousel analogy and the key tips at the end. There’s a lot of wisdom in here and practical help for any caregiver. The One Widow Two Lists chapter was particularly well done,” said a female reader, aged 51.


book cover with award stickers MTICEK-Cover-AWARDS-WEB-TN

Of the 18 readers, 15 would read another book by the same author and 10 felt the accessible style of the writing was the best part of the book.  Thirteen thought the cover was good or excellent.  All comments will be posted soon on Amazon UK and Goodreads.

Senior Downsizing Decisions – Free Seminar

April 21, 2015

Aging requires several life changing decisions–

medical, financial, geographical.

Get tools to make those choices easier. Wednesday April 22 at 11 AM. Vistas Rec Center, 18823 N Country Club Pkwy, Peoria AZ. And of course I will be there with my book.


Proactive Caregiving (While You Still Can Ask For Help)

March 29, 2015

toothacheCaregivers never want to “bother anyone” because it’s “not bad enough yet.”

I hear this so many times in the group that I facilitate that I took the challenge last week.

“So,” I said after hearing an account of falling in which the caregiver and her husband with advanced Alzheimer’s  both sustained bruises and bloody limbs.  He fell into the front flowerbed and could not get up by himself.  She reached down to hoist him up and ended up catapulted against a concrete wall when he proved too heavy for her to lift.

“If you had a sore tooth, you would wait until there was pus coming out of your gums and you were delirious with throbbing pain before you called the dentist?”  There was silence from the eight caregivers in my living room.  I continued, “You know it isn’t going to get any better by itself.”

It’s hard to ask for help.  I know it so well.  But when a loved one becomes more and more unable to help with transfers, when he is too weak and falls often, his caregiver is risking her own good health if she doesn’t make arrangements for assistance.

Caregiving Like It Is

February 2, 2015

Honest caregiver talk Part 2 hits home.  Listen to this chat to overcome that isolated, overwhelmed feeling. Rebecca asks such probing questions.  I told it all.  Try to forget what has changed.  Don’t stew about the future.  Focus on the golden moments.  An inspiring estate sale around Mt. Tabor Park.  An artist who left behind an ink and white paper drawing.

Caregiver Chat at Improvement Radio

Mom's last Mother's Day at Crystals Springs.

Mom’s last Mother’s Day at Crystals Springs.